What to do when you’re having a bad day
Yesterday, I was in a total funk.
If I recall correctly, my first thoughts upon opening my eyes were: Ugh. Another day? Seriously? I’m so over life.
What? Did you think I wake up like a Disney Princess, singing beautiful arias while bluebirds chirrup and fly into my bedroom, helping me get ready for the day?
If only! But nope. I’m only human. Just like you.
I don’t know when exactly it happened…but at one point, amidst the misery, I asked myself, “why do I feel this way?”
And a millisecond later, the reply came in a soft voice: Because you didn’t take the time out to take care of yourself.
Say what?? Sure enough, the voice came again: the last time you felt like this, you realized it was because you weren’t investing in yourself. You’re doing the same thing right now.
I hastened to check the time. I was already 2 hours into my day! Was it too late to turn things around? I was already completely demotivated, which in turn made me grumpy and depressed, and I really didn’t see a way out of this one.
But my faithful steps toward a better day proved wildly successful after all (surprising even me) and I ended the day happy, content, and with a peaceful mind.
So what exactly did I do?
1) First, I recognized I was in a funk. It profits you nothing to deny you woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Just like the AA’s 12-step process, the first step is to admit you have a problem ;0)
2) Ask yourself why you feel the way you do. You’d be surprised sometimes at how small your trigger really is…and even more by what baggage creeps up that has yet to be resolved.
3) Decide how you want to feel today. Trust me. I know how this advice sounds. When you’re in a bad mood, the idea that you can decide how you want to feel sounds totally bogus.
But here’s how you can make it work for you. When you’re having a bad day, all you have to do is change your focus. You see, I was focusing on all the bad stuff, it was no wonder I was down in the dumps. I was caught up in what I hadn’t achieved yet, in unending to-do lists, in unrealized dreams. And when I realized that, it left a bad taste in my mouth.
You better believe I changed the station ASAP. Instead, I started to think about how grateful I was for the things in my life, for having so much free time now that I had my own business, for having my health, etc. etc. It definitely started to lift my spirits and raise my energy.
Plus, once you decide how you want to feel, you can then ask yourself “what’s ONE thing I can do right now to start feeling that way?” I wanted a clear mind and higher spirits. Which led me to the next step…
4) I loved on myself. I think there’s a serious problem in consumer-driven, fast-paced, accomplishment-hungry societies… and it’s that we’re so caught up in our race to the finish line that we forget to take care of ourselves.
Do you have a morning self-care routine? If not, you’re not giving your mind/body/soul the fuel that it needs. You’re practically running on fumes. I cannot stress enough how essential it is to lather yourself up with love before you start your day.
Your personal routine can look however you want it to look. Maybe you meditate, read, sit by a window and enjoy a cup of coffee, listen to nature sounds, enjoy a bubble bath, massage fragrant oils onto your body, walk your doggies, prepare a fruit smoothie, practice yoga, daydream, pray, write out a gratitude list, or plan out your intention for the day.
The point is (and my encouragement to you for today is) to create one. I have found that on days when I skip my self-care routine, I’m in an emotional rut (such as yesterday). But on days when I slow down and take the time out to love on myself, I feel amazing.
Is it possible to be happy 24/7? I’ll go ahead and say no and let you off the hook. But it is possible to be content every day and to have peace…and both come from a regular self-care routine where you treat yourself kindly and cultivate gratitude for your existence.
And what a beautiful existence it is!
So, how do you want to feel today? And what’s one thing you can do right now to feel that way? Now go make it happen!