Are you making this mistake with your thoughts?
This week, I started reading a book which you may have heard of already. It’s called The Secret. There’s a movie that goes along with it, too.
The Secret is about the law of attraction, a concept I’ve been familiar with for a while but one that I’m interested in exploring more deeply this year.
If you’re also interested in learning more about the law of attraction, the importance of maintaining a positive mindset, and how positive affirmations and creative visualization can help you create the life of your dreams, then I would certainly recommend this book.
One lesson from the book that’s particularly stood out to me thus far is the idea of the way we tend to think.
Put simply, most people tend to think about what they don’t want in their life…as opposed to what they do want.
And the more they think about all the things they don’t want, the more they attract larger quantities of those things.
If you consider it, there’s certainly truth to this. Have you ever thought about the way someone has wronged you in the past? And suddenly, your mind is supplying you with all the dozens of other ways they’ve wronged you before? As the saying goes, like attracts like. Your thoughts of victimization attracted even more thoughts about times you’ve been victimized…and chances are, it put you in a foul mood for the rest of the day.
It’s one slippery slope!
As an introspective person, I spend a lot of time in my head. Recently, I noticed that I was spending a lot of time thinking about things from the past – comments people made that hurt me, confrontations I’d had with others, friendships that had fallen by the wayside.
In some instances, these were things that had happened 10 or more years ago! But as soon as one thought took root, a whole garden of weeds would grow, and I could feel the resentment and spitefulness blooming inside me.
Interestingly enough, it’s not even that I woke up on these mornings with the intention to dwell on these things. But once the thought would suggest itself to me, I forgot I had a choice to say “no thanks” and instead I followed the thought down the rabbit hole.
Once I started reading The Secret, I stopped doing this, in part because of this passage:
“Your life right now is a reflection of your past thoughts. That includes all the great things, and all the things you consider not so great. Since you attract to you what you think about most, it is easy to see what your dominant thoughts have been on every subject of your life, because that is what you have experienced.”
Pretty fascinating, right? In other words, by obsessing over past hurts, I was only opening the door to experience those hurts all over again and to welcome in future hurts as well.
When we think about ourselves and our situation, we’re consciously determining the direction of our life. And what you think determines what that life is going to look like.
If you tend to think along the lines of: “Things never go my way…I’m so unlucky…I’ll always be poor…I’ll never find the right person” …then guess what? You’re actually just affirming your current situation and keeping it from changing.
That’s why instead of thinking about what you don’t want, you have to think about what you do want.
I’ve only been practicing this for a few days now, but I can tell you there’s been such a difference in my mind.
It feels more spacious now that my positive thoughts don’t have to share room with the negative ones. I also feel lighter. I don’t have to obsess over past incidents anymore. In fact, when a thought about a past hurt suggests itself to me, I dismiss it and instead think of a positive experience I’ve had with that individual.
It’s really a whole new level of positive thinking, and I’m loving it. My encouragement to you is to give it a try this week. Whenever you think about what you don’t want, quickly change that thought out with what you do want and believe that it will be yours. Whenever a negative thought about a person or situation presents itself, switch it out with a positive one instead.
See how uplifting you feel as a result. It’s such a wonderful place to be. 🙂