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Staying positive even in life’s valleys

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Staying positive even in life’s valleys

Wow, can you believe 2017 is almost behind us?

These past few months especially have seemed to fly by in a blur! 

I’m so sorry that I haven’t been able to blog as regularly as I used to these past few months. As many of you know, life has been a bit of a roller coaster ever since my 11-year-old dog Noah was diagnosed with cancer.

However, I’m happy to report that I raised just about $3500 for Noah. He was able to have his life-saving surgery and has gone through 2 chemo sessions thus far. He has 3 more sessions to go, and then at that point, the doctors would have done everything they can for him.

I’m of course prayerfully believing that this will be enough to say goodbye to the cancer once and for all, and that Mr. Noah will be able to live out many more years happy and healthy. 🙂

You know, so much of our lives are spent thinking about the mountaintops in our life’s journey, whatever those mountaintops may mean for you. Maybe your mountaintop is a dream job, an accomplished goal, moving to a new residence, or finding your soulmate.

Mountaintops are wonderful, aren’t they? They allow us to dream, and they fill us with hope.

We love the mountaintop so much, though, that it sometimes causes us to absolutely despise the valleys between the mountaintops – those seasons of life where we aren’t quite where we want to be.

I remember listening in on a teleseminar once, where a guru in the positive thinking space was asked, ‘How do you stay positive even when nothing’s going your way?’ When you’re not getting the job, when you don’t have the money to pay the bills, when the world seems to be falling apart. The guru said, ‘you just do.’

My first thought was, ‘That’s easy for her to say! She’s a bestselling author, a sought-after speaker, and she’s making no less than six figures a year!’

And I think that’s how a lot of us feel about the gurus of today. We love their advice, but sometimes we may feel like they’ve forgotten just how hard it is when you’re still in the valley and don’t know if you’ll ever see that mountaintop.

So today, I wanted to speak to you as someone who’s not at the mountaintop yet, but who chooses to stay positive even in the valley.

Yes, the guru from that teleseminar did have it right. When it comes to positive thinking, you just do it.

But here’s why:

Some people say you can either choose to be positive or choose to be negative: it takes the same amount of energy…I actually disagree with this.

I believe it takes A LOT more energy to be positive (especially when nothing’s going your way). It takes strength to get out of bed each morning even though the world seems to be falling apart. It takes fortitude to keep trying and trying and trying, even when all of your efforts don’t seem to be getting you closer to your goal. It takes unshakeable resilience to continue forward toward your dreams even when you have nothing to show for it.

Being negative? Please, that’s easy! It’s easy to just complain all the time about how nothing’s going your way. It’s easy to give up at the first sign of difficulty. It’s easy to abandon all hope and stop believing for miracles in the season of famine.

That said, why choose to be positive when it’s easier NOT to be?

Because the same amount of time is going to pass no matter what you do.

The next 24 hours are going to pass whether you choose to be positive or choose to be negative. And since the time is going to pass anyway, doesn’t it make more sense to use it constructively?

I’ve written time after time on the blog about how your thought life attracts your reality. If you want to be negative, that’s certainly your right, but then don’t be surprised when things continue to be difficult. Your attitude, after all, is shaping your reality.

On the flip side, a positive mindset (apart from actively attracting opportunities and blessings) gives you more peace, more joy, and more confidence in your future.

The valley is still there, of course – but now instead of dragging yourself through it in misery, you’re relaxing into the season you’re in and opening yourself up to the lessons all around you every day. These lessons will shape your character, add to your wisdom, and ultimately make you a better person.

And sometimes you may just find yourself grateful for the valley, too. But that’s a blog for another time. 🙂

Until then, I wish you the Happiest of New Years. May 2018 bring you peace, love, and joy.

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