When you’re not ‘feeling it’ with positive affirmations
Chances are that you’ve probably heard of positive affirmations before.
If not, positive affirmations are basically statements that you say out loud every day to empower yourself and shift into a positive state of mind.
Here are some examples of positive affirmations:
Today is going to be a good day.
Circumstances are changing in my favor.
I am full of energy.
I am blessed.
Every day, saying positive affirmations is a part of my morning ritual. In fact, it’s something I’ve been doing for years.
I love starting my day by giving myself a pep-talk. There’s really nothing quite like it!
But I’ll let you in on a little secret: there was one point in time when I found positive affirmations discouraging.
Which is definitely the opposite of how they’re supposed to work!
The thing is, at the time, I was trying to manifest a job. So some of the affirmations I was saying every day were as so:
I am receiving job offers left and right.
I’m finding the perfect jobs for me.
I am wealthy.
I am debt free.
I am financially secure.
It made sense to say these affirmations because these were the things I wanted to achieve.
The problem was that after a while, I was getting frustrated saying them because they weren’t happening. The fact of the matter was I wasn’t receiving job offers left and right, I wasn’t debt free, I wasn’t finding dream jobs.
So it started to feel fake, for one. It also started to feel like I was being unrealistic about my circumstances. It felt forced. And it also just felt disheartening.
Here’s another secret: the power behind positive affirmations isn’t so much in the words themselves…it’s in how you feel as you’re saying them.
So in this case, even though my intentions were in the right place with my affirmations, because I wasn’t feeling uplifted or encouraged by them, then there was no way they were going to be effective.
The question then is: What do we do when we’re just not ‘feeling it’ with our positive affirmations? How do we reclaim that sense of positivity even when we haven’t manifested what we want yet?
The trick is to simply alter your affirmations to reflect your current circumstances.
For example, one of my affirmations above was: I am wealthy.
But if I haven’t yet reached my vision of what being wealthy is, and I want to avoid feeling frustrated every time I say this affirmation, I would instead change it to: I am becoming wealthy.
See how much lighter that feels, and how much pressure is taken off? You no longer have to be at the destination already. Instead, you’re acknowledging that you’re still on the journey, but that’s okay, because your efforts are bringing you closer and closer to your goals.
Here are some other examples:
Instead of: I have my dream job.
Try: I am in the process of attracting my dream job.
Instead of: My relationship with _____ is strong and happy.
Try: My relationship with _______ is becoming stronger and happier each day.
Instead of: I’ve found my soulmate.
Try: Every day, I am closer to finding my soul mate.
Instead of: Today will be a great day.
Try: Today, I choose to see the greatness in this new day I’ve been given.
Reading through the samples above, you can probably sense the powerful shift between each version.
Once I made this change in my own affirmations, I no longer felt discouraged that I wasn’t at my destination yet.
Instead, because I acknowledged that I was ‘in the process’ of attracting what I wanted, I was able to feel hopeful, encouraged, and excited about the way things would unravel for me.
So if lately your positive affirmations just haven’t felt right to you, try adding some of the phrases from above into them. Then go back and read them with the changes. You might just find your heart filling with warmth once more. 😉