Do you feel like you’re outgrowing your life?
The other day, my computer was acting whacky.
It was concerning because I’d just undertaken extensive measures to speed it up and now it was back to acting impossibly slow.
I decided to run a full system anti-virus scan to see if I could detect any issues.
The operating system simply required a critical update. Once I downloaded and installed this update, my lovely little laptop was back to being ‘the machine that could’ and I was back to getting things done.
A revelation that was applicable to my own life lingered in the back of my mind, though.
Had the laptop been left to run in that outdated operating system (a system it had essentially outgrown), it wouldn’t have been able to function in the way it was designed to function.
This led me to wonder: if I remain in situations (jobs, friendships, activities) that I’ve already outgrown, would I be sabotaging my own potential? Stunting my own growth? And robbing happiness from myself?
I think the answer is… yes.
As you know, I’ve been diving headfirst into a lot of self-reflection lately.
I came across a blog the other day about ‘The Saturn Return’–something relevant to those around or approaching the ages of 28-30 and 58-60. Basically, approximately every 29 years give or take, Saturn returns to the same place where it was on the day you were born. Pretty cool, right?
Astrologers believe Saturn’s return is a big time in a person’s life–it’s a season when you start to ask important questions: am I living by someone else’s values instead of my own? Am I living a life that’s too small because I’m afraid to step out of my comfort zone? What is and isn’t working in my life? What’s not in alignment with who I truly am?
Check out this example:
“Consider how insects and reptiles grow – they develop to a point where the inner growth is hard up against the outer defense casing. This outer skin was there to protect the creature, but now it is restricting further growth. At this point the outer casing or skin starts to die, it becomes dry and eventually splits…Gradually a new outer casing, bigger than the previous one, is developed and off the creature goes about its business until, once more, it grows to the limit of that casing and the process repeats.”
So basically, when you find yourself in a ‘Saturn’ season, it’s because you’re starting to come up against the hard casing of a life that doesn’t fit you anymore and it’s time for you to shed it.
So my question to you is: what have you outgrown?
A friendship? A relationship? A job?
Maybe it’s a hobby.
Maybe it’s a habit.
So long as you keep the item you’ve outgrown around (however comfortable it may be to do so because it’s so familiar), you’re holding yourself back from growth. And growth is important because it’s through coming into our true selves that we find fulfillment and peace–not through being someone we’re not.
Remember, in order to change your outside world, you have to make changes in your internal world.
1. So break out your trusty journal and at the very top of the page write: what have I outgrown?
Then let yourself free write. Don’t censor. Just allow your heart, mind, and soul to take over.
2. After your reflection, take a hard look at what you wrote. Then for each item, ask yourself:
-Is this bringing me happiness?
-Is this serving a divine purpose in my life?
-Is this fulfilling me?
-Is this adding to me?
-Is this allowing me to grow?
You can add to this list of questions, but each item should answer yes to at least one of them.
3. If an item has all no’s, however, then ask yourself why. What has happened that something that once enhanced your life no longer does so? How have you changed? In what ways is the item out of alignment with your true self?
4. Lastly, take action! Now that you know what isn’t working because it’s causing you to be inauthentic, start removing it from your life. (When things aren’t adding up, start subtracting!) Just remember why it isn’t working so that you don’t take on something identical later down the road.
Once you start to shed those things from an old life no longer in alignment with who you’re becoming, you’ll leave more room for joy, fulfillment, and beautiful authenticity.