How to stop the train of negative thoughts
I recently started reading a book called Think Better, Life Better: A Victorious Life Begins in Your Mind. It’s by Joel Osteen, who regularly teaches on maintaining a positive mindset and realizing your God-given potential.
In the book, Joel likens our minds to computer software, with negative thoughts being like computer viruses that contaminate the software and mess it up.
I love this analogy, because it’s so true. It’s been said that a human being has 50,000-70,000 thoughts a day. Amazing, isn’t it? The only problem is that some of us may find ourselves experiencing an avalanche of negative thoughts nonstop.
Here’s the thing. You get to decide what thoughts you dwell on. You control the doorway to what you allow in. In his book, Joel encourages readers to guard their minds and stop dwelling on every single negative thought that suggests itself to you.
Instead, ‘water the right seeds’. Negative thoughts will sometimes land in the soil of your mind, but you get to determine whether or not those seeds take root and grow. What you focus on and constantly think about is what you’ll water.
So if you’re always thinking about how things aren’t working out for you, how you’re discontent with your life, how you can’t seem to get ahead, how nothing’s going your way – you’re actually watering those seeds and allowing them to grow. In other words, you’re allowing this unfulfilling reality to become more and more concrete in your life.
So what can you do? It’s simple: learn to hit the delete button.
Just because a negative thought enters your mind doesn’t mean you have to run with it. Again, you get to decide what you dwell on.
What I like to do is replace negative thoughts with their opposites.
So, for instance, if the thought enters your mind that ‘the job market is too competitive right now and nothing’s opening up for me’, you might replace it with: ‘there’s an abundance of opportunities all around me and the right one is coming my way.’
Another example: ‘I’ll never find the right person for me. I’ll be alone for the rest of my life.’ You can replace that with: ‘I’m worthy of receiving love, and I’m attracting the right person to me even now.’
Another example: ‘I’ll never get any further in life. This is as good as it gets.’ Replace it with: ‘My best days are still on the way. I’m a magnet for happiness and success.’
Do this exercise all throughout the day, as often as you have to. Little by little, you’ll begin to train your mind to have a more positive outlook, and you’ll feel better as well by encouraging yourself in this manner.
Remember, the seeds (thoughts) that you water (focus on) are the ones that will grow. So make sure your mind is a garden of beautiful, positive, empowering thoughts. It’ll make all the difference. 🙂