How to keep your resolutions
I know it’s been a while since my last blog. I wanted to take a break to fully soak in the yuletide season. I hope your own holidays were warm, bright, and filled with laughter.
Now here’s a question for you: Did you know that nearly 50% of people make New Year’s Resolutions? Most of them will keep their resolutions for the first 2 weeks of the New Year. But after that, only a tiny fraction of people will actually achieve their goals.
Here’s a few reasons why along with some advice as to how to keep your resolutions:
1) They spread themselves too thin. I used to be the person who had 1,001 things on her to-do list. Now? I focus on one thing at a time. Yes, my progress may be slower across the board, but I’m also able to devote 100% of my brain power to the goal at hand.
That’s meant having to let go of a few other things this year or putting them on the back-burner for a bit, but it’s felt good to have one-track focus.
2) They’re not specific enough. “Eating healthier” isn’t specific enough. You need to go into the details of what eating healthier will look like in the New Year.
One way to do this is to simply tie specific behaviors with your resolutions. So “eat healthier” becomes “skip the fast food breakfast and have a fruit smoothie instead.” Or “manage anger better” becomes “spend 5 minutes each morning meditating before leaving for work.” What habits can you implement into your daily routine to make your resolutions a regular staple of your day?
3) Their expectations are unrealistic. Lofty goals are admirable but they can also be intimidating. Don’t start out with big things like “exercise for 1 hour every day” or “lose 50 lbs”. It takes baby steps to get there.
Instead, commit to 5 minutes of exercise a day (instead of the hour). And gradually increase the time over a few weeks. Instead of cutting food out of your diet ‘cold-turkey’, try substituting healthy food for your favorite snacks one by one. This way, the change isn’t overwhelming.
4) They don’t have accountability. Very often, our resolutions fail simply because we have no one keeping us accountable. Try to find family members or friends who have the same goals as you this year and check in with them regularly. You’ll spur each other on and sharpen each other like iron along the way.
Those are just 4 of the many methods you can use to fail-proof your resolutions and I think you’ll find them to be beneficial.
As for me, I actually stopped making resolutions a few years ago. Partly because I wasn’t keeping them — but also because I realized that at the heart of every resolution is something even bigger that we’re hungry for. I talk all about it here ;0)
Until then, enjoy your day…and dream big!