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Why it’s not healthy to be positive all the time

Have you ever felt like you had to wear a smile 24/7? For any number of reasons, we often feel compelled to keep up the illusion that ‘everything’s fine’. Maybe it’s because we don’t want to worry our friends and family. Maybe we don’t want to be seen as a…

Beware! Complaining can damage your brain…

Have you ever heard of a show called Fashion Police? It entails a panel of fashion ‘experts’ dissecting what celebrities are wearing at red carpet events. More often than not, it tends to lean toward these so-called ‘authorities on fashion’ slamming, criticizing, and tearing down others. For a lot of…

How I flipped the script on a scarcity mindset

As many of you know, I’m a novelist. It’s been a dream of mine since I was 6 years old. One day, I’d like a book of mine to be a New York Times Bestseller. As an author, I naturally follow other authors on social media sites to stay up…

Is chronic complaining ruining your life?

Is chronic complaining ruining your life? Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and reading on the subject of the ‘scarcity mentality’. Have you ever heard of it before? Basically, people with a scarcity mentality are fluent in the ‘language of lack’. Common myths they speak out loud include:…

Got a fear that’s nagging you? Try this.

Wow, what a past few months it’s been! I want to thank you for bearing with me. I haven’t been able to blog as regularly as I would’ve liked this summer. I’ve devoted the majority of my time and energy to writing (and publishing!) my second novel, Lavender in Bloom….

How to surround yourself with more positive people

Today I want to talk about how to surround yourself with positivity – even when there aren’t enough positive people in your life. First: why surround yourself with positivity? You may have heard this expression before: you are the sum total of the five people you spend the most time…

How to love more and feel more loved

As we draw closer to the end of the year, I’d like to talk about personal reflection, which I’m a big advocate for! I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching and personal reflection myself these past weeks (though, admittedly, it’s something I do year-round too). For instance, I recently took…

How to bring love into the world

I have no doubt you’ve heard of the influx of violence in our world as of late. Mass shootings, terrorist attacks, police brutality, fatal domestic disputes… It’s all incredibly heartbreaking, and it begs the question: why is there so much pain, hate, and anger in the world? I’ve heard everyone…

Keep your peace or prove you’re right?

Today, I want to talk about wanting to keep your peace vs. the urge to get your point across to win an argument. I had a pretty funky weekend. I went to an art festival with someone, and parking was a nightmare. We finally found a well-hidden parking garage open…

Cover Reveal Day for My Debut Novel!

Special delivery today!┬áThe cover for my debut novel,┬áThe Secrets We Kept, has finally come into the world for all to see! I’m so excited to share it with you, so without further ado, allow me to present it: Isn’t it beautiful? I’ve even made it my cellphone’s wallpaper so that…