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How understanding my personality helped me be happier

Today, I want to talk about personality, particularly about the whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy. While I generally don’t like to pigeon-hole myself because I feel we are so much more complex than labels allow for, I do believe that when it comes to understanding the way we operate on a personality…

3 ways to build emotional support

My last blog post (check it out here) was all about what to do when you feel unneeded. One of my recommendations toward combating the sadness that comes with feeling unneeded was to create moments of happiness in your life. In yesterday’s email, I provided you with a website to…

How to start being happy

Wow! The response to my last blog (“when you feel unneeded”) had the biggest response of any blog I’ve ever written! (If you missed it, check it out here). So many of you emailed me to let me know my words had resonated with you – in fact, dozens of you…

When you feel unneeded

I’ve just finished watching the movie Paddington. Yes, the children’s movie. (Sometimes I think children’s movies tell better stories than ‘adult’ movies to be honest!) In the movie, Paddington (voiced by the wonderfully talented Ben Whishaw), arrives in London per his aunt’s encouragement, where she’s sure he’ll find a loving home…

How to stop being passive aggressive

One thing I’ve especially been learning lately is how to express my feelings, my needs, and my wants. Somewhere along the way, I perfected the art of passive-aggressiveness. If I was upset with someone, instead of telling them that I was upset and explaining why, I would communicate it in…

How to show love to others

My mom’s been a busy bee this past week. She’s been clearing out my dad’s office (for those not familiar with my story: my dad passed away in September 2013 from cancer). Today, she went through the drawers in his desk and as it turns out, my dad had saved…

How to uncomplicate a relationship

This month, I’ve been learning a lot about honesty, transparency, openness, and vulnerability…especially where these things relate to relationships. I have learned that while being vulnerable and expressing yourself and laying your feelings all out on the line can be incredibly frightening, it usually always leads to spiritual evolution (you…

Are you overcomplicating your goals?

Today, I want to talk about goals. With 2015 just around the corner (wow – where did this year go!?), I’m sure you’re no doubt starting to think about how you’d like 2015 to go down. If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while now, you may know that…

What to do when you’re having a bad day

Yesterday, I was in a total funk. If I recall correctly, my first thoughts upon opening my eyes were: Ugh. Another day? Seriously? I’m so over life.  What? Did you think I wake up like a Disney Princess, singing beautiful arias while bluebirds chirrup and fly into my bedroom, helping me…

How to stop worrying about what people think of you

Like most people, I always wanted to be liked by…well, everyone! By my family, by my friends, by readers of stories I published online, by fellow club members, by classmates, by the random clerk at the grocery store… I would provide the answers I thought people would want to hear;…