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Why cheering people up isn’t always the answer

On December 16, 2016, Posted by , In Emotions,Friendships,Growth,Happiness,Health,Joy,Relationships, With No Comments

Question: have you seen the Disney/Pixar movie, Inside Out? If not, I highly recommend it. In fact, if there was some sort of mandatory course on living life more effectively that all human beings had to go through, this movie would definitely have to be on the curriculum as ‘required…

How to surround yourself with more positive people

Today I want to talk about how to surround yourself with positivity – even when there aren’t enough positive people in your life. First: why surround yourself with positivity? You may have heard this expression before: you are the sum total of the five people you spend the most time…

How to love more and feel more loved

As we draw closer to the end of the year, I’d like to talk about personal reflection, which I’m a big advocate for! I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching and personal reflection myself these past weeks (though, admittedly, it’s something I do year-round too). For instance, I recently took…

Keep your peace or prove you’re right?

Today, I want to talk about wanting to keep your peace vs. the urge to get your point across to win an argument. I had a pretty funky weekend. I went to an art festival with someone, and parking was a nightmare. We finally found a well-hidden parking garage open…

How understanding my personality helped me be happier

Today, I want to talk about personality, particularly about the whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy. While I generally don’t like to pigeon-hole myself because I feel we are so much more complex than labels allow for, I do believe that when it comes to understanding the way we operate on a personality…

3 ways to build emotional support

My last blog post (check it out here) was all about what to do when you feel unneeded. One of my recommendations toward combating the sadness that comes with feeling unneeded was to create moments of happiness in your life. In yesterday’s email, I provided you with a website to…

How to start being happy

Wow! The response to my last blog (“when you feel unneeded”) had the biggest response of any blog I’ve ever written! (If you missed it,¬†check it out here). So many of you emailed me to let me know my words had resonated with you – in fact, dozens of you…

When you feel unneeded

I’ve just finished watching the movie¬†Paddington. Yes, the children’s movie. (Sometimes I think children’s movies tell better stories than ‘adult’ movies to be honest!) In the movie, Paddington (voiced by the wonderfully talented Ben Whishaw), arrives in London per his aunt’s encouragement, where she’s sure he’ll find a loving home…

How to stop being passive aggressive

One thing I’ve especially been learning lately is how to express my feelings, my needs, and my wants. Somewhere along the way, I perfected the art of passive-aggressiveness. If I was upset with someone, instead of telling them that I was upset and explaining why, I would communicate it in…

How to show love to others

On February 4, 2015, Posted by , In Friendships,Growth,Joy,Love,Peace,Self Image,Spirituality, With No Comments

My mom’s been a busy bee this past week. She’s been clearing out my dad’s office (for those not familiar with my story: my dad passed away in September 2013 from cancer). Today, she went through the drawers in his desk and as it turns out, my dad had saved…