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One simple trick to stop worrying so much

I’ll admit, in the past, I’ve tended to be a big worrier, and it’s something I’m gradually working on for the sake of my peace of mind…and sanity! It’s just that I’m one of those people who likes to prepare by imagining all the possible worst case scenarios. It’s my way…

Is chronic complaining ruining your life?

Is chronic complaining ruining your life? Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and reading on the subject of the ‘scarcity mentality’. Have you ever heard of it before? Basically, people with a scarcity mentality are fluent in the ‘language of lack’. Common myths they speak out loud include:…

Got a fear that’s nagging you? Try this.

Wow, what a past few months it’s been! I want to thank you for bearing with me. I haven’t been able to blog as regularly as I would’ve liked this summer. I’ve devoted the majority of my time and energy to writing (and publishing!) my second novel, Lavender in Bloom….

What would you do if fear wasn’t a factor?

Today I want to talk about fear. Mostly, I want to ask you a simple question: what’s that one big thing you would do if fear wasn’t a factor?  You know that thing I’m talking about. That thing you dream about. That thing you want so much. That thing that…

Keep your peace or prove you’re right?

Today, I want to talk about wanting to keep your peace vs. the urge to get your point across to win an argument. I had a pretty funky weekend. I went to an art festival with someone, and parking was a nightmare. We finally found a well-hidden parking garage open…

7 easy ways to eliminate stress

People often make the mistake of believing that stress is something we have to settle for and learn to live with, but that’s not true at all. Stress doesn’t have to rule over you. No matter how stressed you get at times, you always have the power to take back…

How understanding my personality helped me be happier

Today, I want to talk about personality, particularly about the whole introvert/extrovert dichotomy. While I generally don’t like to pigeon-hole myself because I feel we are so much more complex than labels allow for, I do believe that when it comes to understanding the way we operate on a personality…

3 ways to build emotional support

My last blog post (check it out here) was all about what to do when you feel unneeded. One of my recommendations toward combating the sadness that comes with feeling unneeded was to create moments of happiness in your life. In yesterday’s email, I provided you with a website to…

How to stop being passive aggressive

One thing I’ve especially been learning lately is how to express my feelings, my needs, and my wants. Somewhere along the way, I perfected the art of passive-aggressiveness. If I was upset with someone, instead of telling them that I was upset and explaining why, I would communicate it in…

What to do when you feel undeserving

A few weeks ago, I learned that Les Miserables had opened at my local theater. I was ecstatic. You see, I’d just finished writing a short story about the French Revolution. I also was on a high from watching the 2012 movie shortly afterward (though not for the first time). I’d always…